How can Create-a-Life Personal Life Coaching Help me to…

Get Through This Difficult Time?

• What are you saying lately?
• Braving the white-water rapids
• Types of transitions
• Moving through the fog
• Why Create-a-Life?

Lately, do you find yourself saying things like this?

• “I don’t know what I should do.” (voice trails off)
• “I don’t know…” (in a quiet voice, staring into space)
• “Sigh!” (big exhale, your torso goes all “blobby”)

Braving the white-water rapids

“Difficult times” are often important transitions in our lives that take us from one stage of life to the next. Imagine you are sitting in a kayak on a river. Everything is fine, but then you turn a bend and you come face-to-face with a course of white-water rapids. Life transitions can sometimes feel like that—they suddenly appear and you find yourself paddling frantically trying not to get caught in those scary rapids ahead. But the longer you resist them, the more tired you become. Eventually you get pulled into the current and you are being taken on the ride of your life. You are so tired and confused that you cannot steer your way around these rapids and you have no idea where this is going to land you, or even if you will come out of it alive! Going through life transitions can be frightening at first, especially if you are on your own, but braving the rapids in spite of our fears can often be exhilarating, and even rewarding, and bring us to more interesting waters at the other end.

Types of transitions

What kinds of “difficult times” are actually “life transitions”? Generally, they are important changes that occur within your self, your family or your social environment:

• Self: “Mid-life crisis”; change of life/menopause
• Family: Death in family; divorce, break-up with partner; becoming a new parent; children leaving home (“empty nest”)
• Environment: Change of home, job, social or religious group; returning to/from education or employment

When you find yourself going through these kinds of transitions, things can indeed look and feel very “foggy”. Sometimes, you might feel that everything you used to regard as important is now looking oddly different to you. You might feel like you just woke up from a dream, and you find yourself saying:

“Hmm, I don’t have a clue who am, or what I am supposed to do next!”

Basically, you are caught up in a whirlwind of change, and are having difficulty making sense of it or move forward through it.

Moving through the fog

During such times, personal life coaching can help you to examine where you are now,where you wish to go next, how you wish the journey to happen, and to design a “road map” for the journey through your transition in the form of a concrete plan of action that will help you explore all the options that are open to you, or perhaps those that you might not have even imagined were at your disposal. “Moving forward” does not necessarily mean finding a “smoother” ride through the changes that are happening in your life (after all, you might actually find a “bumpy” ride to be more fun), but it does mean to move forward into a life that is richer, more valued and more enlivening to you as a result of having gone through this important life transition.

Why Choose Create-a-Life?

Very simply, I have gone through every single one of the above life transition scenarios myself! At age 50+, I have had many first-hand experiences of the cycles of transition, and know what it takes to emerge from the chrysalis and fly into new opportunities that await us. In addition to my personal life transition experiences, I was also a college lecture/tutor for many years where I worked with and advised hundreds of adult and adolescent students towards coming into and progressing through education, especially those returning to education after a long hiatus. My oldest student was in her mid 40s when first she came to me (see testimonial below). At that time, she had been away from education for more than 20 years and was very hesitant to take the risk of returning, especially as she had been away for so long and lacked support from her family. She overcame all her fears and progressed through her A-level courses under my tutelage, worked with me as a coaching client to complete her degree in music production, and then coached with me through the career design and selection process. Apart from my work with clients going through transitions, I was also the director of a college department, and guided many members of staff through difficult personal and professional transitions, such as new job anxiety, work/life balance, divorce, depression, decisions to change career, etc.

Call Create-a-Life TODAY for a free consultation at 0845 880 25 28 or
email Lynn at lynn@create-a-life.co.uk to find out more.

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